I remember when I was in School, especially in the 12th grade, the teachers wouldn't stop saying 'enjoy your life,these carefree days, no responsibilities etc' almost scared us, some practically advised us against their tradition of marriage, and said study all you want before you get married. Marriage in short was not looked at a positive thing, it was the marking of the end of a womans life for herself and a start of endless sacrifices and disappointment.
But anyway, My topic is not marriage, my topic is the advice. I used to think even then, why would you want to be carefree, I wanted more responsibility, more control over my life, and as far as I remember all the girls around me were too looking for the chance to just be themselves and explore the world on their own terms .
And unfortunately today when I meet some married ladies, few well into their late twenties complain and wish to be little kids, playing around, having no responsibility, I think "What ?!@#$@# are you crazy?" who would want to go back to living in uniforms, going through crappy exams whose importance was exaggerated?". I feel smarter now, wiser, independent happy, content, and optimistic, now my life is not what the teacher draws a picture of, Now I get to paint my own life, and take in whatever direction I want to, most importantly because I can.
And I refuse to buy excuses that restrict ones ability to make decisions and choices, we're adults, laws,religion, everything permits us to do what we want. Some actually don't want to accept the fact that chosing to buy a certain car is their choice, marrying a certain girl/guy is their
choice, no one physically gets you to do anything. And if it does happen that's your fault too. (I am not talking about uncertain crimes here).
choice, no one physically gets you to do anything. And if it does happen that's your fault too. (I am not talking about uncertain crimes here).
I wonder why some people still think once you have kids your life's over, I take it as an opportunity to give someone else a better experience than yours at everything in life. From games, to toys, to school years, to adolescence, what could be better than making some one else' life more fun, and more creative.?! What could be better than having this power itself?
I personally believe if after you're an adult, regardless of being married or unmarried, you want the days where you had no responsibility, you are basically choosing to be irresponsible, and stupid. Because no man in his right mind would not want to live his age, and instead try to want what they can't and shouldn't have.
This is my point of view, One should embrace life in all it's glory and accept what age and destiny brings our way , it's the only way to happiness and contentment, longing for what you don't have is longing for what's not good for you...
The grass looks greener on the other side because you CHOSE to be dumb enough to not notice the beauty on the one you tread!
